HER is the only major dating app built exclusively for lesbian, bisexual, queer, and non-binary people — and in 2026 it remains the gold standard for queer women looking for both dates and community.
What Makes HER Unique
Most dating apps are designed with straight men in mind and adapted for everyone else. HER was built from the ground up for queer women, by a queer founding team. That shows in everything from the profile options to the community features to the way matches are surfaced.
Dating + Community in One App
HER is not purely a dating app — it is a social network. Beyond matching, users can follow each other, post stories, join topic-based groups, and discover LGBTQ+ events in their area. This community layer makes it valuable even when you are not actively dating.
Profile Options
HER supports a wide range of identity options including 30+ gender identities and multiple sexual orientation selections. Profiles include photos, a bio, prompts, and optional badges for relationship type (monogamous, polyamorous, etc.), pronouns, and more.
Safety Features
HER has a manual verification process and a dedicated safety team. Users can flag and block profiles easily. The environment is generally considered safer and more respectful than mainstream dating apps, in large part because of the community accountability built into the social features.
Free vs Premium
The free tier is solid — matching, basic browsing, and community features are all free. HER Premium (~$15/mo) unlocks advanced filters, seeing who liked you, and profile boosts.
Downsides
The user base is smaller than mainstream apps, especially outside major cities. In smaller towns, you may find the pool limited. And the app has had inconsistent quality updates over the years.
Score: 4.4/5 — The best dedicated option for queer women. Pair with OkCupid for reach.
